DON’T . . . 1. Treat her like an object. We HATE this!
2. Touch a girl's chest. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER!!! (I cannot stress this enough.) Even if it was an accident, it is better to apologize and be awkward then to pretend you didn’t notice/it ever happened. (Also, have you ever been playing a physical game like tag and had a girl suddenly snapped at you while playing? Just watch where you tag/push/hit. There is a reason she's annoyed.)
3. Tell her that she would look good in a bikini/shimmying/other such thing. If she wants to display her body she can do so without you telling her to.
4. Point out any physical imperfections, particularly those having to do with acne or curves. This is just plain rude.
5. Ask her about her weight. It may be a sensitive subject, deservingly or not.
6. Compare her to other girls. No matter what you could end up putting someone down or making someone feel bad and that is just mean.
7. Make references to the fact she is over/under developed.
8. Flirt with her unless she is flirting with you/other guys in the area, this could make her very uncomfortable if she's not ready for that kinda thing yet. Again, if she wants to do such things she’ll start it. Playful teasing, however, is O.K., but keep it PG!
9. Make overly pervy or off-color comments and jokes. Again, this makes some girls (not all, but some) uncomfortable.
10. Talk about male puberty around her. We really don't want or need to know.
Now we really aren’t all that hard to please so to help you understand us even better here is a short list of things that we really do like and that we may even find flattering. (Though please do remember, everything in moderation . . . otherwise you could just end up acting rather strange.)
DO . . .
1. Have conversations with her, because, if you haven’t noticed we like to talk. Books, movies, music and interests are all good starting topics.
2. Compliment her on things like a poem she wrote, a medal she won or any other kind of achievement that deserves to be celebrated. Especially if she is really excited about it. Or anything else really. . .
3. Respect her boundaries. This means listen to her when she asks you to stop doing something, and don’t do things that you know could make her uncomfortable.
4. Do little favors for her. It is, of course always nice when someone decides to be a little extra nice to you for no reason or benefit to him or herself. Try not to over do it though, that might weird her out a bit.
5. Read "Pride and Prejudice". :P For two reasons, #1 So you can fallow all the worthy advice there given, and #2 So you can figure out why on earth we're all so crazy about it! (Okay, it doesn't have to be Pride and Prejudice... But if you want to get better at getting to know girls, read some of the stuff we like to read.)
6. Listen to her. We like to talk and so obviously we like to be listened to and whether we’re telling a story or expressing our opinions it is always nice when someone takes the time to listen to us. And who knows you might even end up understanding us a little more (or at least appreciating the fact that we are so complex that you will never understand us, one of the two☺).
7. Be honest with us, don't lie to us. if you do we will never be able to trust you at all. And no friendship can be a true friendship without trust.
I know I have applied this list mainly to girls but I think that many of these things should be taken into consideration when dealing with other people in general. Then maybe we’d all understand each other a little more, and that could go a long ways . . .
By : http://www.goodreads.com/story/show/14908-dos-and-don-ts-about-girls-and-relating-to-girls-for-boys
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